Babygirl-Littles and those who adore them 

A safe place to learn about being a Little 

WARNING: Any institutions or individuals using this site or any of its associated sites for studies or projects - You DO NOT have permission to use any of my profile or pictures or any pages of this web site in any form or forum both current and future. If you have or do, it will be considered a violation of my / our privacy and will be subject to legal ramifications. It is recommended that other members of this site post a similar notice to this or you may copy and paste this one to Y/your profile as well .

If you want to join this site you MUST be 21 years of age and put a pic on your profile or in an album ! No Exceptions !!

Welcome to this "little's" site, here you may learn a little something about what a baby girl/little is as well as what being a Daddy Dom may be (each girl and Daddy dynamic is different, however the roles are about the same as described within this site) . It's not age play nor an incestuous site so if that's what you are seeking, please look elsewhere. This is a site built solely on my prospective and from my point of view, even though some of the material contained herein may have been borrowed from around the net or from friends, it's still how i perceive and live my life.

An Online Warning 

As the Master of the House entered the room He saw what was not there Her clothes, her books, her private things...

Even the walls were bare. 

No submissive greeting did call to him, no lowered eyes or bended knee. No offered breasts or upturned ass. Those things he never again would see. 

The one thing his eye did fall upon had been left there for him to find an envelope and folded note that had been left behind. He opened up the letter there to read what he knew it would say And looked once more upon her tiny hand written words. In the light of the ending day. 

"When we first met there in that chat room Your words were honey sweet. They flowed into my heart and soul like a freezing child who has been given heat. You learned all there was to know about me. While I knew nothing of you. You brushed off my questions, called them unseemly and crass. And implied that I was rude. Soon did I fall under your spell. As potent as any a wizard could weave I turned my back upon career, family and friends. All of them I did leave. To come and kneel before you to serve you as your slave. To answer the dark voices so deep within my soul. To seek out the life that I did crave. For you did I suffer the torments of the damned. And often more than that as well. To be worthy of the collar you had placed upon my neck. But, you have not proven to be worth this sort of hell. You have tormented me with cane and oar For your amusement did I suffer the paddle, the flogger and crop But where once I found honor in serving you I now know that this must stop. Last night was the final straw as my pleas for mercy fell upon deaf ears. I saw you rejoice at the sight of my battered and bleeding flesh. And drank deeply of my tears. I shall no longer live this way. You who call yourself a Lord. My journey continues alone this day This dark river shall I forget." 

The Master opened the envelope And found within the collar. He knew he would. With tight clenched fists and bright red eyes. Long in the empty room he stood. 

Then with a sigh he turned to leave. And unto his computer go a new screen name...a new profile And then he chuckled low .

He felt in his heart no great loss.There were many more on line lonely, begging, needing subs. He knew quite well their kind. And once again the hunt was on, That all begins on line. The sweet flowing words, the velvet touch. Bind later the body, but first, the mind. To use them well then use them up And then to cast them in his wake He knew the collar would soon be filled As he logged on, and leaned back to wait. He waits there still, even now, on line The innocent IM cast forth as bait To find his victim and lure her in unto a honeyed, bitter fate 

©SirWolfr1 All Rights Reserved Oct 15th,

Learning to trust your instincts !!

Within this lifestyle there are unfortunately many dangers, there are people out there using the BDSM lifestyle as a way to abuse or use individuals under an umbrella of acceptance. Within each situation there are warning signs that we see, unfortunately sometimes we do not see these warning signs until it is too late. There are many people that say they are a Dominant are not, instead they are users, abusers, predators, wannabees, bullies, and manipulators. This article is designed to help people understand what a warning sign or red flag is, and hopefully prevent someone from getting hurt.

Some people think that just because they have read all the books and watched all the movies that they are instant Dominants; Instant Dominant…Just Add Water, and Shake Well. Just because he or she has a few floggers doesn\'t mean they know how to use them or that they are a Dominant of any form. Just because someone orders you around or attempts to control your life doesn\'t mean they are a Dominant. Being a Dominant is a menagerie of infinite strengths and weaknesses combined together with all the normal human mediocrities. It takes a lifetime of learning and growing to be a Dominant, and those that believe otherwise may not have a true grasp of the concept. Even as one is able to claim the title of Dominant, Master, Mistress, Lord, or Lady, God or Goddess, one is still learning, the learning is a never ending road that allows us to travel into the exciting and new dimensions of this adventure called BDSM.

As a Dominant myself I have come to understand that every Dominant does things in a different manner, and that just because what they do is different from what I do, it doesn\'t make what they do wrong, it just makes it different. However there is a difference between just being different and being dangerous.

If someone submits to you because they fear you, then you are a bully not a Dominant.

If someone submits to you because you give him or her expensive presents then you are a pimp not a Dominant.

If someone submits to you because you threaten to leave or abandon him or her if they refuse then you are a manipulator, not a Dominant.

If someone submits to you because you wont leave him or her alone if they don\'t then you are a predator not a Dominant.

If someone submits to you because you will beat him or her if they don\'t then you are an abuser not a Dominant.

There are far too many individuals out there in today\'s society that manipulate, abuse, use, and lie to others in an effort to gain their service and respect. There are a lot of warning signs and although we tend not to see them unless in retrospect here are a few. Read each one carefully and answer honestly, when you have finished go back and look at the questions and the way you answered them.

* Does the Dominant use expensive gifts to get you to do something you honestly don\'t want to do?

* Does the Dominant restrict you from having friends over or going over to see your friends?

* Does the Dominant threaten to leave you whenever you tell him or her that you don\'t want to do something?

* Does the Dominant make you feel guilty if you can\'t or wont do something?

* Does the Dominant restrict you from contact with your family?

* Does the Dominant get upset with you when you try and talk about the problems you are having?

* Does the Dominant ever make you feel as if you are not good enough or that you can be easily replaced?

* Does the Dominant ignore your medical or physical needs (this does not include the inability to see to these needs due to financial dificulties) ?

* Have you caught the Dominant in a lie?

* Have you lost or gained an excessive amount of weight since being with the Dominant (this does not include intended weight loss or gain)?

* Does the Dominant make you feel bad if you question him or her?

* Does the Dominant make fun of or belittle your religious beliefs?

* Does the Dominant give you reason to question his or her honesty?

* Does the Dominant go away for long periods of time with no explanation and refuse to discuss it with you or get angered when you ask?

* Does the Dominant make you feel ugly or unwanted?

* Does the Dominant attempt to force you to do things that make you feel uncomfortable?

* Have you ever felt dirty or cheap after being with your Dominant?

* Does the Dominant drink to excess or too frequently?

* Have you ever felt like the Dominant is hiding something important?

* Has the Dominant ever hit you in anger?

* Does the Dominant ever tell you not to talk to others about your relationship?

* Does the Dominant restrict you from speaking with his or her past slaves or submissives?

* Have you ever been afraid to discuss something with the Dominant?

* Has the Dominant ever threatened you or became enraged when you tell him or her no?

* Has the Dominant ever given your services away without consulting you or without your consent?

* Has the Dominant ever brought another individual into the relationship without consulting you or without your consent?

* Does the Dominant demand to know your ware bouts at all times and still checks up on you?

* Have others told you that you should be careful or expressed concern about the Dominant and your well being?

* Has the Dominant ever talked bad about you to another Dominant?

* Has the Dominant ever said that others are out to get him or her?

* Have you ever felt like you were raped after having sex with your Dominant?

* When you have questioned the Dominant has he or she ever said that they don\'t have to defend themselves against lies?

* Has the dominant ever mad you do something that you were physically or emotionally unable to do?

* Since you have been with the Dominant have you experienced an abnormal amount of depression or anxiety?

* Since you have been with the Dominant have you thought about committing suicide?

* Does the Dominant make you feel that your opinion does not matter?

* Does the Dominant punish you without explaining why?

* Does the Dominant ignore your needs?

* Does the Dominant express jealousy whenever you mention other Dominants or past relationships?

* Does the Dominant take all your money and refuse to give you enough to cover your basic needs?

* Does the Dominant participate in illegal actions, including the use of illegal drugs?

* Have you ever second-guessed your decision to be in the relationship?

* Has the Dominant ever questioned your loyalty when you question his or her behavior?

* Has the Dominant ever knowingly let you go without necessary medical attention or medication?

* Have you ever felt lonely even in the presence of your Dominant?

* Does the Dominant punish you publicly or in front of others?

* Has the Dominant ever refused to speak about his or her past?

* Does your Dominant ignore limits or safety words?

These questions are designed to range in type and severity, so look at each one carefully, and remember that everything is relative. If the Dominant has made you feel guilty one time because you were being nosey this is not necessarily a red flag or a warning sign. If every time you ask a question you are belittled and yelled at then yes that would be what I would consider a red flag. Look at the combination of answers, did you answer yes to those concerning control and discipline, if so do you think that the degree of control or discipline is unacceptable, specifically is it something that you did not consent to?

Some questions must be answered carefully, like for instance if one of your fantasies is to be raped and you have ever had sex with the Dominant and were left feeling as if you had been raped then this is not necessarily a bad thing. Sometimes a Dominant will do something that others may consider wrong, and do it for all the right reasons, for example…every time you go over to your Mother\'s house she ends up yelling at you and getting you very upset, she never treats you with respect and you always end up depressed or mad when you go over there, because of this your Dominant will not allow you to go see your Mother. This is not an attempt to hurt you; it is an attempt to protect you and should not be viewed in a negative manner. The same thing goes for friends, are your friends hurting you or using you, do they take advantage of your submissive nature? Then it is only proper that your Dominant would restrict you from being around their negative influences.

Basically you need to follow these simple steps.

1. Go through the list and answer each question honestly.

2. Go back though and look at each question that was answered YES.

3. Was the behavior a one-time incident? If you answer yes, make a note of what brought on the incident and discuss it with your Dominant. If no, perhaps you should ask someone outside the relationship for his or her opinion.

4. Was the behavior within your area of consent, by this I mean, did you consent to be treated in this manner, for example did you consent to the fact that you may be given away to another Dominant as a possibility within the relationship. If the answer is yes then you should pass over that specific question or answer it as no instead. If you did not consent then perhaps you and the Dominant need to talk about what you understand are the limits, boundaries, and structures of the relationship.

5. What was the motivation behind the behavior? If the behavior was done out of carelessness or done unintentionally then I would suggest talking to the Dominant and letting him or her know how the behavior effected you. If the behavior was done out of anger or malice then perhaps you need to reevaluate the arrangements you currently have in your relationship.

6. Are there extenuating circumstances surrounding the behavior? Has there been an unusual amount of stress within the Dominant's life, perhaps illness, or financial problems? If yes then perhaps you need to talk the circumstances over with the Dominant and maybe listen too, sometimes stress gets unintentionally passes on to those we care about, and we don\'t even realize it. If no then perhaps you need to ask the Dominant why they behaved in such a manner.

7. Go back through your answers and look at them again. Using common sense do you think there is a pattern there? Are you being treated in a manner you did not consent to? Are you being used or manipulated?

I created this article in a hope that people in abusive relationships would come to realize the difference between consensual servitude and abuse. No one deserves to be mistreated; unfortunately sometimes an individual doesn't realize that they are, or that they have any alternative. Everyone has the right to be treated in a manner that they feel comfortable with and that they knowingly consented to.